Husbands, Love Your Wives…

Posted on February 15, 2010 by Kris
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In Ephesians 5:25, Paul wrote, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…“  Perhaps most people look on that as a given.  Of course a husband loves his wife, at least in our society!  But, there must have been a purpose for the command, else God would not have revealed it through Paul!

Men need to learn to love their wives in the proper way.  This passage is not addressing the “warm fuzzy” feeling that is present in the newlywed’s heart.  Nor is it addressing the physical lust that may drive a physical relationship.  The love that Paul wrote about was the kind of love that Christ had for His church.  What exactly does that mean?

Christ was willing to offer His life up for the church.  That is what many men think of when considering the idea of loving their wives “as Christ also loved the church.”  But, how many husbands are called upon to give up their lives for their wives?  What needs to be understood is that Christ did what was needed for the church!  Husbands, if they love their wives, need to do what is needed for them!

Many husbands who claim that they will “do anything for their wives” actually do very little for them!  They are not concerned about what is needed by their wives, or discount what is needed as being “her job.”  Husbands often are oblivious to what they can do to help their wives.  It is a mistaken interpretation of scripture to think that a man cannot help his wife care for the house of the children simply because she is told to be the “keeper at home.”  Perhaps it is just an excuse to get out of being a help to the wife!  I have seen women who could not call upon their husbands for any kind of assistance because they knew their husbands would not lift a finger to help them.

What it comes down to is that this type of love needs to be shown, not just talked about!  A husband can claim that he loves his wife, but if it is not shown, then love is not really there.  In 1 John 3:18, John told his readers to “...not  love in word or in tongue, but in deed and in truth.“  He was not speaking about the marital relationship there, but the principle could certainly be applied.  It is not good enough just to tell your wife that you love her; you need to show her!  Are you, as a husband, willing to make sacrifices for your wife?  Do you give up things that are valuable to you, so that you can provide for her?  Are you willing to give up time, or hobbies to provide what she might need?

While it may be noble for a husband to say that he will die for his wife, the opportunity to do so will probably never arise.  That makes the gesture somewhat hollow.  What a wife wants is for her husband to show her that he loves her by giving what she needs.  Show your love by giving of yourself for her.  Help her where she needs help.  Make sacrifices that will benefit her.  When you do, she will know that you do love her in “deed and truth.”

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  1. Aaron on February 15th, 2010 11:47 pm

    I can say that the sermon on this topic was very good, and gave me an awful lot to consider as a husband.

    And that’s the goal of a good sermon, right? :)

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